The Blind Client Who Opened My Eyes
I see people with a wide variety of backgrounds and experiences which includes people with and without disabilities. I’ve seen war veterans who have recovered from severe injuries, people who are physically handicapped, and a even smaller number of deaf or blind clients. People oftentimes ask, “Do any of your clients make an impact on you?” Aside from injured war vets, who always amaze me by what they’ve gone through, one person stands out in my mind. I remembered him the other day: a semi-regular client from a few years ago who has been completely blind since birth.
I saw him a number of times over the course of a year when he would want to come out and gamble (slot machines mostly). Nothing sexual ever happened, and I don’t even think I got naked for dances during these visits. I definitely remember him taking care of me, typically for 3-5 hours blocks over several days to accompany him around town. Normally when people pay just for company, I have to think of transportation; where am I going? how should I dress?, etc. For once I didn’t have to consider hopping in a cab and I actually drove him around in my own car. We usually went to dinner and then I took him shopping wherever he wanted to go. The rest of the time was spent in the room talking about his personal issues — living by himself at home and how he deals with things that we oftentimes take for granted in our everyday lives, like grocery shopping or simply getting around. He really just needed someone to talk to and I felt bad because you could really tell how alone he felt when he was home. Sometimes he got overly emotional during our conversations.
While out shopping or eating, I really started to notice how different life is when you can’t see anything, and particularly if you have never been able to see your whole life. Imagine not knowing what “color” is, what “brightness” is… or darkness. Things that we might use as adjectives to describe something to someone else are limited by only things you can hear or feel. He liked going shopping for nice timepieces because of the way the watches ticked and felt in his hands. I tried describing the faceplates or colors of the armbands or shininess, but this was all unimportant and useless information to him. Most people would be enamored by the way a watch looks, but he liked them for completely different reasons that I would have never noticed before. Even counting cash is impossible if you can’t see. You have to trust that the person who is giving you change is really giving you what is right. I know that in a lot of countries currency has different sized bills or braille to differentiate, but he had a system of folding bills in his wallet six different ways for the six different denominations (I never saw him with a $2 bill). He also liked staying only in hotels that had an elevator that said aloud “going up” and announced each floors. At dinner I often read the menu to him to help him order (and eventually knew what items to skip over that he didn’t like).
And then I had to think of creative ways to “show” him around town. What is something good to hear? Or feel to experience in Vegas? Once I took him to the Bellagio fountains to hear them exploding only to be disappointed that it was a windy day. The more explosive shows were replaced with soft, swaying water sounds. He still enjoyed it.
Though I don’t see him anymore and his numbers have all changed, I used to check in with him every so often to see how he was doing. I couldn’t imagine a world where I couldn’t see or hadn’t experienced color or light before. And what he showed me in his world definitely made me more aware of what I experience in mine.


Bless your kind heart. You are truly special.
May 14th, 2011 at 2:15 pmBeautiful post! We are fortunate to meet people like your friend who teach us so much about life and the human spirit. I applaud your creativity in helping your friend to “see” Vegas in ways that others would never think of! Thank you
May 14th, 2011 at 4:04 pmReally nice post LVC. Much appreciated.
May 14th, 2011 at 4:18 pmU R a special/sensitive soul…!
May 14th, 2011 at 6:45 pmBeautiful, touching post. I admire your ability to adapt to different situations.
May 14th, 2011 at 10:39 pmBeautiful! You have a quality that makes life a little easier for many. Thank you.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:33 pm*like*
May 16th, 2011 at 2:05 pmthat post made my day. pretty moving stuff.
May 16th, 2011 at 3:45 pmThe increasing size banknotes make sense, I’m really surprised the US hasn’t picked up on this, yet. Bumpy pavement at crosswalks should be standard by now, too. The biggest ‘new’ problem for the blind will be the electric car, a gas engine provides an alert.
Would bungee jumping or roller coaster at the Stratosphere have been too much? With conquering a fear, he would get a rush of self confidence. That and a bit of adrenaline would make for some very positive side effects in the bedroom.
May 17th, 2011 at 9:47 amI have worked for a blind woman for 6 years. Taking her to do her errands, etc. I have learned how to experience life differently through her “eyes”. I appreciate the feel of fabrics more than I used to, or the feeling of the sun on the side of my skin. I have learned many ways to describe things without tying in the visual descriptions. It has been a great experience and I enjoyed reading about yours.
May 18th, 2011 at 12:36 pmWhat a fantastic post. That’s one of my favorite things about this business — all the different people we meet, all with amazing lives and minds I’d otherwise never get to know.
May 18th, 2011 at 4:58 pmI think I suggested rollercoasters and the like but I don’t think he was a big fan.
May 19th, 2011 at 4:12 pmThank you, Courtesan. It really did bring a tear to my eye. Had you considered the virtual skydiving venue there in Vegas? They have these really powerful fans that blow you up into the air and you float harmlessly while experiencing the air currents that a skydiver feels. I tried it and if you closed your eyes ( blind ) you couldn’t tell the difference. And I had actual skydiving experience before I went there. Cheap entertainment.
May 22nd, 2011 at 8:44 pmSome days I really hate my life, but I often remember that I can walk, I can see, I can bike my ass off on hot summer nihgts in Minnesota — all things others would give their right arm for the ability to do. And instead of hating my life, I hate myself. Your story is one of the constant reminders I need, reminding me of how fortunate I am.
July 12th, 2011 at 10:39 pm